By Mohamad Al-Oraybi
LAU Tribune staff
They say there are seven women for every man in Lebanon. And there is probably one gay man in every group of ten men. That leaves every 70 women with 9 single men. The number is scary and the competition is even scarier.
In a country like Lebanon where girls are known to be chic, educated and beautiful, how can a woman find a man? And when she does, how can she keep him for herself?
The dating scene in Beirut has become ridiculous.
A girl named Sarah is introduced to a man through a friend-of-a-friend. He seems to have it all; the smile, physique and most importantly the bank account she needs to fund her endless shopping sprees.
Suddenly, the beautiful and educated young woman turns into the possessive girl. “Jackpot!” she screams.
She wants to see him every day, and she does. He enjoys the company of a beautiful companion and –most importantly– appreciates being seen with one when he meets his acquaintances and friends. One date drags another, endless late night phone calls and Sarah is hooked.
She refers to him as her new boyfriend after the third date and does not forget to get physical with him every time he drops her home.
She then overlooks her own life and sees him every time he is free, even if she’s not. A month later, he stops returning her calls and gets “really busy” with work.
This is not the first time this happens to her and it won’t be the last.
A typical girl’s night out in Beirut is in order. Sarah and three of her beautiful high school friends finally made the time to meet up. They all share one thing in common, a secret agenda. These girls claim they are going out to have some “girl time” in a bar or club.
Secretly, each girl is dreaming of meeting her knight in shining armor. Heels and full make up are a given. In the club, after a check by the valet, bouncer and waiters, the real competition begins. The four girls turn from a girls’ night out to an “I saw him first” rivalry.
To her surprise, Sarah runs into her “ex” with a new beautiful girl that looks exactly like her a month earlier.
To get even, she gets drunk, makes a fool out of herself and throws up on her new red stamped heels. Her three other friends are not any luckier and return home alone.
If a woman is successful at work, and is beautiful and well educated, then why this panic for a man? Women seem to be giving up everything as soon as they find a man who they think “has it all.”
In a country where your virginity is a must and you need a man to complete you, how much are you willing to give up in order to please the first guy that fits your standards?
How much more attractive is a single, independent and successful woman who dates a man when it is convenient for her instead of changing her schedule to be available for all his calls?
A man doesn’t marry the little girl who depends on him, but the strong independent woman who completes him.